Being Real

When a problem strikes on your face, almost everyone feels some level of discomfort. Depending on the size of problem, level of discomfort turns into trouble, worries or just a small glitch. I have seen many problems in my life and I have tackled them, failed myself in front of them or failed them with my beliefs, instincts and hard work. I think the biggest challenge is not how big a problem you face but what you think when the problem strikes. Its your way of thinking that matters, not the size of problem in the very first place. We start thinking about how to resolve this problem and have pleasure in our life back again because no one wants pain and misery. Thats a natural human desire.

I have observed many people, including me, always start thinking that if we do this then this will happen and if we do that then that will happen. When we start projecting solutions to the problem, we forget that its all theory as of now. We start projecting many solutions and many views about those solutions. In may case, I discuss the problem and solutions with my friends or other people who have the ability to do beyond what I ever did. You are the primary person, you are the one who has to walk on the path and resolve the issues you are dealing with. No matter how much solutions you are going to think, no matter how much you analyse the problem and propose ten or hundred solutions, remember that its all fiction (my favorite word here is “a novel”). That solution is not real, its theory, the solutions are not facts yet. Whatever you think is gonna happen if you do solution number 1, will not happen and the opposite of it will also not happen, there will be some 3rd, 4th or 5th new thing that will happen and that 3rd, 4th, 5th or Nth thing will be real. Its will a fact and a real life experience that will take you to one level up in gaining the skill of solving the problems effectively and in less time. There is no need to over-analyse the problem and propose as many solutions as possible because this is not the place where you will win. You will win over the problem by your attitude towards life. One important experience of my life is that peopler have these two problems inside:

(1) They do not think beyond what others taught them. Others means their thinking ability is shaped by what they were taught in school or from people they meet everyday life like neighbours or colleagues and from advertisements. There will be intelligent and mature people in their lives and they copy those people who are like masses, who lack independent thinking and hence they themselves become so. If you doubt it, look at the sales of cold drinks as compared to sales of fruits.

(2) They do not commit themselves completetly to the problem. They do not want to take lot of pain in order to solve the problem.

My whole point is that there is no need to do complex analysis and get bogged down in thinking of fictional solutions towards real problem. Have some courage and just do the solution you thought. The experience you will get in doing it in reality will change your views and opinions of the way you live. It will be a real experience, not hours of theoretical gruelling in mind only . Fictional thoughts are useless, they are a waste of time and they eat your energy and time. They are your real enemies, not the problem itself. You can ignore the problem, and this is what most people do anwyay, but is this going to make you happy in long term ? Learn from your experiences and create experiences with practical approach to life I mentioned.

 

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